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Rev Ro: Posted on Thursday, August 04, 2011 2:21 PM
Practical Steps
- Discuss details of the vows with your partner. Decide whether or not you will write vows together. Decide if you will share the vows prior the wedding or wait until the special day to share them with each other. Decide how long or short your vows will be. Also discuss what would be considered too private to share in a public ceremony.
- Discuss whether there will be on any religious references. Decide if you will make it a religious ceremony or not. If there are different faiths involved, decide if the service should be spiritually designed to blend both faiths. If there is a special prayer or spiritual message you wish to share, discuss this idea as well.
- Write each other a love letter and exchange love letters with your partner. Use the letters to help you get inspired and connect to the reasons you want to get married to each other.
- Reflect back on your relationship. Think about the first time you met, when you first realized you were in love and wanted to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Review old photos and think of the different romantic moments you shared and deeply enjoyed.
- Wedding assistance of friends and family. Use references from others who have gotten married. Ask them how they managed to write their vows and what inspired them. Get a few ideas, but remember you don’t want to copy, only get inspired.
- Surf the Web. Go online and look at sites for poetry, prayers and love quotations.
Writing - Use positive and personal words. This is a time to focus on the best you both have shared and enjoyed. The vows should reflect the love and joy you share. Keep you quotes simple and make them reflect your personal style. Don’t use fancy quotes or words that do not normally represent your style as a person. The key is to be simple and loving.
- Consider using favorite quotes or passages. Feel free to use a passages from your favorite childhood book, poem, or quote.
- Get ideas from friends, family and your officiant. If you’re not comfortable writing, get assistance from a friends, family or your wedding officiant.
- Simply written. Make your vows simple, since you will need to speak them out loud and the more complicated, the more you have to remember
Preparing for the Ceremony
- Practice the vows. In the days leading up to your wedding day, take time to practice. Recite the vows aloud while standing in front of a mirror. Take your time and remember the people you will be sharing these vows are your friends and family who love you deeply.
- Write your final version. Print your vows and have your maid of honor or best man hold on to a copy of your vows in case you forget.
- Discuss ideas with your
wedding officiant prior to getting started on your own vows. (Some
houses of worship have different requirements which may include reciting
traditional vows.)
Vital TIP: Its your special day…enjoy it and make it work for you and your partner!! |
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